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When did you find out about your spouse's affair?

This Week

This Month

This Year

More than a Year

How would you describe your daily emotions right now?

Constant shock and disbelief

Mostly confusion and questions

A mix of anger, guilt and sadness

More stable, but still painful at times

When you think about what happened, what best describes you?

"I can't believe this is happening"

"I need to know why this happened"

"I feel like it's my fault"

"I'm learning to accept what happened"

How often do you find yourself thinking about the affair and looking for signs that you missed?

Constantly- multiple times a day

A few times a week

Sometimes, mostly when something triggers me

Rarely, I have accepted it

How do you handle unanswered questions about the affair?

I can't stop asking and searching for answers

I feel consumed by trying to piece things together

I still think about it, but not as obsessively

I've accepted I may never know everything

Do you check your spouse's phone, email, or social media for clues?

Every chance I get

Sometimes, when I feel anxious

Rarely, only when I am triggered

I never did this

Do you blame yourself for the affair?

I feel it must be my fault

I wonder what I did wrong

I know it's not all on me

I see it was their choice

Do you feel like something is "wrong" with you because of the affair?

Every day

Frequently

Sometimes

Rarely

Do you feel your spouse blames you for their choices?

Yes, all the time

Sometimes

Rarely

No, they never did

Do you feel like you're mourning the marriage you thought you had?

Yes, It feels unbearable

I feel waves of sadness and anger

I notice it but it's not constant

I feel some acceptance

Which emotion do you feel most often?

Overwhelming sadness

Anger

Numbness

Peace, and occasional grief

Do you cry or shut down when the pain hits?

Almost Always

Often

Sometimes

Rarely

How do you feel about staying or leaving your marriage?

I feel paralyzed

I go back and forth constantly

I have an idea but I am scared to act

I'm confident in my choice

Do you worry about regretting your decision?

All the time

Often

Sometimes

Rarely

How ready do you feel to make a decision?

Not at all

A little, but I am overwhelmed

I just need clarity

Very Ready

How confident do you feel in your ability to handle triggers when they come up?

I fall apart every time

I struggle, but I try to cope

I manage most of the time

I handle them with tools that work for me

How often do you prioritize your own healing and self-care?

I put myself last

When I remember

I make time for it

It’s non-negotiable now

When it comes to your marriage (or post-divorce life), what best describes you now?

I feel stuck in resentment and pain

I want to heal, but it feels slow

I see progress in trust, communication, or boundaries

I feel stronger and more at peace, regardless of the marriage outcome

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The 7 Stages of Betrayal

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